First of all…
Our obsession with “New Year, New Me” is, in reality, actually setting yourself up for failure. I feel like it’s become so cliché now and is wired into our brains. I can’t remember if these words had come out of my mouth last year, even so, I do remember saying it every year for as long as I can remember. Whereas this year, I had decided from now on, I will not be saying it anymore.
In reality, you can only work on what you’ve currently got and improve oneself. If you do “start from scratch, creating a new you”, how long would it take for you to go back to the old you? A month? A few days? Or maybe a few hours? Then you’re back to square one. So instead, find and acknowledge your faults or any difficulties you have faced, then this becomes your starting point, therefore, allowing you to build up from there.
I’ve always believed you can’t put a timescale on change. But of course, you will have your “ideal date” as to when this should be accomplished by. However, there will be a lot of ups and downs during this journey yet you can still loosely keep this ideal date as a guide. Having said that, be flexible, open and adapt to the situation. Don’t be hard on yourself nor apply too much pressure.
I’ve given up on New Year’s resolution years ago. Every year, I always make the same resolutions and fail horrendously. Why is that? Being the high achiever that I am, I always set the bar way too high, creating near to impossible goals. Once I’ve realised it’s not doable, I give up just like that and continue to live the way I always do. To me, goals are meant to be realistic and am better off making small, achievable ones throughout the year. Jumping straight into the deep end isn’t ideal. It’s utterly and completely impractical.
I’m not saying that New Year’s resolutions are a bad thing at all whatsoever. They’re not for everyone. It may work for some, but may not work for others.
I do believe in New Year, New Start, in the context where what happens in the previous year stays there and to focus on the new year. Basically, I’m just going to copy and paste my Instagram caption here.
What happens in 2018 stays in 2018. Putting yourself first should be a priority and it certainly isn’t selfish. Focus on yourself, your goals, your mental health etc. You’re in control.
The truth is, no one will EVER have a smooth, trouble-free year. Everyone will run into difficulties. It’s how you face, act and overcome them that will define you. If you can’t tell from my caption, I’m going to be working on myself and 2019 is going to be me, me and ME.
What do you hope to achieve in 2019?
哈喽！Nicol is a China based British blogger with a goal to visit all provinces in China, using this blog to document the good, the bad and the ugly of anything and everything. Currently visited 32/34.