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5 Don’ts for a Happy Life

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When you’re in the midst of reflecting on life whilst in the shower, ideas of blog posts come about. I was thinking about a workout I didn’t do my best in on one morning however smashed it the next day. I was happy on both occasions then was deep in thought about what happiness is and how to live a happy life. I had come up with don’ts for a happy life.

Don’t beat yourself about it
We all have a personal best we want to beat or goal to reach. If you make mistakes or something went wrong, don’t beat yourself up about it. Take it as a baby step, learn from it and try again. Constantly beating yourself up will have the opposite effect on happiness and affect you mentally which may lead to giving up and losing motivation.

Don’t compare yourself to others
Ahhh. How many times have you heard this? It is hard to not compare yourself to others in today’s society with social media constantly surrounding us. Everyone needs to remember that everyone will post their good times no matter how much they are going through behind the screen. The majority will not talk about what’s going. Like them, we have the option to post what we share and don’t share to the world ourselves. No matter how successful they are, they started from the bottom and worked hard to where they currently are. Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. Just remember, everyone is human, has emotions and started from the beginning.

Don’t dwell and hold onto things
The past, the present and the future. Keeping hold of the past and living in it will not help you move on and live in the present. Many people worry about what the future holds but, in reality, you have the ability to change it. Any regrets or grudges you may have, let them go. You’ll feel a big weight off your shoulders. You’re in control. Live in the moment, one day at a time.

Don’t be afraid
Whether it’s to say no, speak up, admitting you’re wrong, taking chances etc. It’ll be the first step of whatever it is and you’ll feel brave about it. Admitting you’re wrong or not perfect is a fragile topic but it will help break down those walls and bind everyone together. It isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. Taking a chance shows you’re willing to try and are brave regardless of the outcome. Regardless of how enormous and how minute the situation is, you’ll be showing your strength.

Don’t give up
Goals and dreams. It’s not going to be straight forward and all unicorns and rainbows. You will have to make adjustments along the way even if it means taking 2 steps backwards at some point. As long as you keep on trying, welcoming the ups and downs life throws at you, and not accepting “no” as an answer, you will get there eventually. Nothing is really over or impossible until the moment you’ve completely stop trying.

Bonus: Don’t give a shit
Language! Stop caring what others think of you. They’re the ones who know you the least and will always judge with what they hear about you and see what you do. They won’t understand your actions, what’s going on etc. They’re not going to spend time to get to know you so why care for toxic people and their toxic thoughts? Just be you. If others don’t like it, give them a smile, walk away and cut them out of your life. You can’t please everyone. I always say, the day you stop caring is the day you can start enjoying your life.

Are there any more you can think of?


31 responses to “5 Don’ts for a Happy Life”

  1. Vivian Yuen says:

    Thanks for the encouragement hun~

    Vivian | LIVE . IN . LOVE


  2. lisa prince says:

    i so believe this but i do believee others can help you find the you your needing to change x

  3. Claire Mason says:

    Everything you say is so true. Great writting. I always beat myself up about things I have no control over

  4. Lynne Harper says:

    I'm loving this. Everything you have written is so true and I really need to take note on a few of them myself x

  5. Jodie Whitham says:

    I love that pink quote – it's lovely! These tips are amazing. I feel i'm often too negative about myself and my worst critic. I also feel too afraid of things haha! I'd also don't judge others and don't make assumptions x

  6. Donna Ashworth says:

    I am a big fan of this way of thinking – it is bang on! Happiness is definitely a choice and whilst circumstances can affect, we must take responsibility. Great advice x

  7. Dannii Martin says:

    Not comparing yourself to others can make sure a huge difference. We are all on our own journey.

  8. Jo Wiggins says:

    I always used to compare myself to others, it's easily done, but make a real effort not to anymore x

  9. Hayley says:

    This is such a great post, really gives you something to think about. I need to try not to compare myself to other people as it can really bring you down sometimes.

  10. Hannah Latoya Bond says:

    Comparing yourself to others aint good. All it does is depress you x

  11. Joanna Victoria -x says:

    Great post sometimes u just need a positive boost in the right direction. I use to compair myself a lot to other people and still do when I shouldn't

  12. Rhian Westbury says:

    I totally agree with these especially don't compare yourself to others x

  13. theurbanrealist says:

    I think your bonus tip- don't give a shit is my favorite!

  14. Samantha Jeffery says:

    Such brilliant tips for self love, it's easy to forget them sometimes!

  15. Alison Rost says:

    Great reminders .. how easy it is to forget!

  16. Lianne Thebrunettesays says:

    Love the last one, it's one of the most difficult things to do, not care what people think, isnt it?

  17. beautyqueenuk says:

    Such a great post and you are right, no one is in charge of your happiness except you and stop thinking and caring too much about what others think of you x

  18. Daniella Keating says:

    Totally agree with all of these, they are thing that definitely hold me back!

  19. Le Coin de Mel says:

    Comparing yourself to others is such a killer, isn't it? The best way to see how far we've come is to compare ourselves to, well, ourselves. I'm trying to improve my photography at the mo, and looking back, I kinda cringe at my old photos, but also look at my new ones with a little bit of pride (still far from what I want to achieve but hey!).

  20. The London Mum says:

    Exactly how I try and live my life 🙂

  21. Life-As-Mum says:

    I love this post! Totally agree with every single one of these points.

  22. Jade Bremner says:

    Great post and this is kind of my attitude this year towards everything. I have no one to impress and if I'm happy who cares what anyone else says x

  23. Baby Isabella says:

    Don't dwell and hold onto things is a hard one for my mummy…but she's learning slowly x

  24. Stella Olojola says:

    Great post. I agree. Comparison is the thief of joy.

  25. Serenity You says:

    love all of these tips!!! my favourite is to not compare yourself to others

  26. Charli B says:

    I really needed to read this post, thank you! I'm always beating myself up about things and I am trying hard to work at not at the moment xx

  27. Francesca Nelson says:

    As soon a I stopped caring about what others thought of me my mentality changed!! A huge weight was lifted and I felt so much happier! That is always top of my list, be yourself don't give a shit!

  28. Leah XL Channel says:

    I think not only stop comparing yourself to others but maybe being better to people. Maybe you aren't as good as someone else in your chosen field but you can be nicer, kinder, listen more and be more engaging. x

  29. Totally agree about comparing yourself with others – truly the thief of joy! I think sometimes it is good to be slightly afraid of doing something – makes the feeling of achievement afterwards so intense.

  30. AMummyToo says:

    I love this and needed to read it right now. It's so easy to feel a little dragged down by the world around you. Time to get positive!

  31. Laura Hartley says:

    All such great ideas! I'm trying to implement all of these things this year as I'm really stressed with exams and these things really weigh you down! Thanks for the reminder 🙂

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