How Blogging Has Made Me Grow As a Person

How Blogging Has Made Me Grow As a Person

WHAT I’VE LEARNT

I’ve been blogging since 2010 but didn’t really properly get into it since mid 2012. After all these years, I did think whether it has helped me grow as a person. For the past week, I’ve been thinking how it helped me grow. There was one particular issue I had grown from (maybe not 100% but getting there) which I’m going to explain now.

Body Image
To those who have been following my Twitter for years knows that I have body image issues. Apologies to those who I’ve annoyed over the years because I’ve complained about it often, way too often. I must admit, I did think that being thin was the perfect image which was portrayed by the media and even by fashion bloggers! Being the stubborn person I am, I would never listen to my friends or my past relationships (but then again, past relationships did make me feel low about myself due to problems and no support or comforting whatsoever from the other half).

Over the years, I’ve read plenty of those high number of followers fashion bloggers. I did envy them and thought thin was the way to have a shot at making it into this blogging world. You can easily get eaten up by it as it can be overwhelming. It was only since June where I’ve got out of my last relationship, I had started to properly discover and read more of the smaller bloggers, even local to me and thought, these are real people who I can talk to and get a response on Twitter etc. Then it just hit me. Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes and I’ve began to accept my body shape. Yes I am quite broad, have an athletic body shape and know that I’ll never be able to be stick thin and what? I do have to odd “I’m not stick thin” moments but it’s not as bad as it use to be. I will get there eventually.

Criticism
Criticism is one of those things everyone hates. Even when I was in high school and college, I didn’t like criticism my teachers gave me about any of my art projects. I use to think I did those projects perfectly. Thinking about it now, it was their job to guide me, to help me improve and do the best I can.

There is a difference between getting criticism and hate comments. I’ve had comments I felt were insulting years ago and yeah they did hurt but they made me stronger. I don’t care for them now. I laugh it off. As with criticism, I’ve learnt to accept and take them as a way of making note on to improve my blog if relevant or as a second opinion. It is easy to read criticism and bite back at them, scooping down to their level but you’ve got to be the bigger person and leave it. You cannot please every single reader. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, just don’t take it to heart. There will be something you’re not too fond of on a particular post someone has posted. Works both ways.

Comfort Zone
There are many things I wouldn’t usually do in real life never mind blogging. Blogging has opened my eyes to something I never thought I could ever do, forcing me to step out of my comfort zone. For example, I take outfit photos outside and will get the “what is she doing?” or the odd “oh she’s a tourist taking photos of everything” look. This particular one also links to my body image problem. Stepping out of my comfort zone has given me more confidence and have met some lovely people too.

Not Caring
I did use to care what people think of me blogging. Over 4 years ago, blogging wasn’t as big. Posting it on Twitter and Facebook was definitely a no go as there was a chance of getting laughed at for any product “selfies” therefore keeping the blog hidden. We all know how bitchy people can get. Now I just promote it on my social media, without spamming every hour, annoying people with it. It’s easier now as blogging is a big. I’ve met lots of other like minded individuals and it can be refreshing to talk about any blog related. It’s like they understand you and are definitely in your shoes!

My office knows I blog and it does get embarrassing when someone randomly reads it around me. I have talked about it since they were intrigued and were asking questions. Some colleagues have blogged previously and stopped or are blogging still.

Has blogging helped you becoming a better person?

36 Comments

  1. 4th November 2014 / 11:05 pm

    Thank you for sharing your blogging story. Blogging has definitely helped me to become a better person, I am much more confident now and I love sharing everything, from photos to places we have been, our favourite recipes, etc! x

  2. Louise Smith
    4th November 2014 / 11:27 pm

    Aww this is a lovely post. I think that blogging has given me a quiet confidence I never expected to have! I don't mean that in an 'Ooo I'm awesome' kind of way, but in more of a 'I can do this' sort of way. If that even makes sense lol.X

  3. Emma Delfosse
    4th November 2014 / 11:27 pm

    I think it's wonderful that you were able to share your blogging story, it makes me want to share mine. I am more confident in my makeup skills now that I can get feedback.

  4. loveforlacquer
    4th November 2014 / 11:55 pm

    This is such a wonderful post! I'm glad blogging has helped you in so many ways!

  5. Grace Balfour-Harle
    4th November 2014 / 11:57 pm

    Blogging is a difficult thing, and I am still dealing with my friends and family talking about my blog to my face, although funnily enough, I dislike getting criticism from them than random strangers. Weird, eh? I've just discovered your blog, but I think I will be returning soon as I quite like it, and your content is very good.

  6. Alfia. W (Fiarevenian)
    5th November 2014 / 6:35 am

    Lovely post! I do have the same thought as yours. At first I thought blogging is just some random activities to kill time. My husband was the first and the only person who introduced me into blogging world. My first blogging moment was in 2009 but in the late 2013, I've been blogging about beauty ever since and found so many social networks other than those in the internet. I wish we can gain so many positive things from blogging. Keep blogging and positive thinking.. πŸ™‚ ~GIG

    http://www.fiarevenian.com

  7. Laura - Alagoz
    5th November 2014 / 9:35 am

    Its truly great post πŸ™‚ You never know how much you can learn and grow from blogging! Thanks for sharing! xo's

    Laura
    Pink Frenzy

  8. beautyqueenuk
    5th November 2014 / 10:23 am

    Great post hunnie and I don't know if it has changed me or not, I have learnt quite a lot about my skin which I guess is something x

  9. Ellie Dickinson
    5th November 2014 / 11:46 am

    Such a great story! I've learnt more about makeup and skin x

  10. Angeline Lee
    5th November 2014 / 12:31 pm

    This is an amazing story! It's helped me a lot too! Thanks for sharing x

  11. Simply Fashion TV
    5th November 2014 / 4:58 pm

    This post hit close to home! I'm just now learning how to tell the difference between criticism and hate. Thanks for sharing xoxo giglove

  12. Rajalakshmi Murali
    6th November 2014 / 4:57 am

    Such a nice post.. Thank you for sharing.. It is good to know that you have evolved better. <3 giglove

  13. Beauty Redefined
    6th November 2014 / 8:57 am

    such a nice post. yes blogging has really chnaged me a s a person and i am way more confident now

    Shumaila Jaffer
    Beauty Redefined

  14. Julie Bardoe
    6th November 2014 / 10:26 am

    This is such an amazing post! It's lovely to hear how you have grown since starting blogging! Your blog is awesome too x

  15. Vivian Yuen
    6th November 2014 / 11:14 am

    Blogging has definitely helped me step out of my comfort zone, so pleased to hear it has had a positive impact on your life!

    LIVE . IN . LOVE ✞

    ~

  16. Zubaida Rasool
    6th November 2014 / 1:49 pm

    You did an amazing post, blogging definitely change a lot of things in bloggers life πŸ™‚ ~ gig
    glamupgirls.com

  17. Sin Yee
    7th November 2014 / 11:58 am

    Great sharing, my dear. Hmmmm… I have started blogging in this year, a better person??? Hmmmm…. So far, I only think it helps me to improve my language. My first language is not English, but I choose to blog in English, which actually quite a challenging task. Giglove

  18. Lovelyladyjb
    7th November 2014 / 1:30 pm

    I have had a similar experience! I have changed from caring to totally not caring. I have also been blogging for about 5 years! Crazy!!

  19. Agata Pokutycka
    7th November 2014 / 5:28 pm

    Lovely post!
    Yes, I think it did help me. It gives me kind of freedom I need and couldn't find before.

  20. Kay Cake
    8th November 2014 / 6:50 am

    Love this post, very inspiring!

  21. Aimi Haruna
    8th November 2014 / 7:27 pm

    It's a great post.
    I started blogging since in junior high school, but I'm easily get bored. Make a blog and leave it, and started to blogging diligently this past 4 months.

    Indira

  22. 10th November 2014 / 4:33 am

    LOVE this!! So fun to hear about other people's experiences with blogging, it's such a great journey.

  23. Marxie β™”
    10th November 2014 / 6:54 am

    Wow, you've been blogging for 4 years. πŸ˜€ Hope you can continue to blog for a long time, I really like the photos you post.
    great post btw! Thank you for sharing your story!

  24. Mia Foo
    10th November 2014 / 12:46 pm

    i feel your last point. in fact, i'm still separating my social media into a blogging related and "truly personal" accounts just to keep most people in my rl social circle from knowing that i have a blog.
    giglove

    http://molly-mia.blogspot.sg

  25. β™₯Sarahβ™₯
    10th November 2014 / 1:22 pm

    Great post! Not caring is something I'm still learning. =) Be strong!

  26. Khushboo Motihar
    10th November 2014 / 2:58 pm

    I completely agree with you. I believe that blogging has taught me many important lessons, too. GIG love πŸ™‚

  27. Ileana
    10th November 2014 / 3:16 pm

    Wow! These are really all true! I havent thought about it, but I agree with them all πŸ™‚

    giglove!

    novelstyleblog.com

  28. 10th November 2014 / 11:04 pm

    A very interesting post. Blogging is a really great journey. πŸ™‚

  29. jessica ie
    11th November 2014 / 1:27 am

    I learnt many things too since I blog a year ago.. i felt the same way with you.. however many downs in blogging had turned us into a person rite ^_^

  30. Nina Gonzalez
    11th November 2014 / 5:31 am

    thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable. this was a beautfiul post, def my favorite of the week. gig

  31. Chaicy Style A Pastiche
    11th November 2014 / 6:17 am

    I get what you said! I used to care about what people would say but then post my blogging venture I hardly bother!!

    GIG Love

    New Post – xoxo Chaicy – Style..A Pastiche!
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  32. Tasha F
    11th November 2014 / 10:59 am

    Thanks for opening up hun! I love to hear when bloggers say how much blogging has helped them grow as a person. I feel the same way. Blogging has helped me in so many ways.

  33. Yuh Jiun
    11th November 2014 / 12:08 pm

    Thanks for sharing! And yes I gotta agree with you!

  34. Caroline Paris
    11th November 2014 / 12:20 pm

    this is a lovely brilliant post – thanks for sharing your feelings -carolinefashionstyling.com

  35. Heena Shah-Dhedhi
    11th November 2014 / 2:58 pm

    This is the best post i've read this week, so heartfelt so personal…..GIGLove
    http://www.icynosure.in

  36. Maria Clara Novita Kusumahati
    13th November 2014 / 12:49 am

    awesome post which is very interesting and inspiring us!
    thank you for sharing..
    i also agree with you πŸ™‚

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